It's late at night, the kids are asleep and as I drift off into sleepy land I hear, "Honey, are you asleep? Honey? Honey..."
Well I was until you woke me! And thus begins another sad tale of a married couple's inability to fulfill their innate needs: a wife's need to sleep, a husband's need for sex. Even worse, this story is playing out over urban landscapes, suburban developments and rural towns across the country — every night!
I know, because I have been collecting empirical data for years now and if I have come to one conclusion, it's this: men desire, no wait, REQUIRE sex, more than women. This is in general true, however, results may vary.
So it is the collective issues all married folks face that I hope to address in this new feature. It's possible that couples who aren't married face some of these problems as well, but if they are, at least they can stop the madness without consulting an attorney and dividing assets. I welcome the input of total strangers on this, because if you can't talk to a total stranger about the intimate details of your sex life, then who can you?
Back to the sleepy couple. Without a doubt, this pattern for most couples begins with the birth of their first child. Besides being emotionally and physical exhausted looking after a baby, something changes in a woman when she becomes a mother. A switch goes on that seems to override her former self and natural desires, which is replaced with a need to be this nurturing beast who lives and breathes maternal instincts. In other words, she is consumed by mothering, neglecting all things that mattered before the birth of her child — most importantly — you Mr. DNA donating husband.
Over time this dynamic shifts and things should begin to resemble "normal," but what is normal? One study says Americans on average have sex approximately 2.3 times per week, or 118 times a year. Another study states that the percentage of men who think about sex everyday is 70%, with women coming in at 34%. No information was available on how often Tiger Woods thinks about sex, but I'm guessing it's more than average.What is the happy number, the one where both partners are equally satisfied and the equity of effort is fair? Depends who you ask. I know one couple who came up with an "every other day" rule of thumb, while others opt for weekends only. However, I have also heard of people who haven't had sex in six months. Wow, talk about dissatisfaction!
Food for thought: What's something your partner could do to make you feel more amorous?
By Dawn Olsen
A veteran blogger for 8 years, Dawn frequently voices her opinions - some occasionally based on rumor, conjecture and bias - on matters relating to celebrity, family, politics, music and stuff. As publisher for Glosslip.com for 3 years, and a regular contributor for Blogcritics.org she is excited to be a Senior Editor and Entertainment Channel Editor here at Technorati. Dawn likes moonlit strolls, happy endings and has an interest in the breeding habits of South Pacific birds.
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